Understanding Trauma
認識創傷
Trauma is not only defined by major, high-impact events. It also includes the persistent impact of childhood emotional neglect, constant criticism, or unstable caregiving environments. Experiences like difficult relationships, medical trauma, chronic caregiver stress, and cultural or intergenerational challenges
can deeply affect our well-being.
Trauma often lives in the nervous system, showing up long after the events
have passed as a sense of being stuck in survival mode.
Healing involves recognizing these patterns and creating a safer relationship
with your current self.
創傷並不單指重大的突發事件。它也包括童年時期長期的情感忽視、
不斷遭受的批評，或是缺乏安全感的成長環境。諸如艱難的人際關係、
醫療創傷、長期的照顧者壓力，以及文化或家庭世代間的觀念衝突，
都會深遠地影響我們的心身健康。
創傷往往深藏於我們的神經系統中。在事件過去很久以後，
它仍可能以「受困於生存模式」的精神狀態呈現。
療癒的目的，正是去覺察這些潛在的模式，
並與現在的自己建立一段更具安全感的關係。
Signs Trauma May Still Be Affecting You
創傷可能仍在影響您的跡象
Constant anxiety or worry
持續的焦慮或憂慮
Difficulty trusting others
難以信任他人
People-pleasing tendencies
習慣性迎合他人
(討好型人格)
Emotional numbness
情緒麻木或抽離
Perfectionism
完美主義
Fear of making mistakes
害怕犯錯
Hypervigilance
(always on edge)
高度警覺
(內心時刻緊繃)
Difficulty setting boundaries
難以建立個人界線
Low self-worth
自我價值感低落
Relationship struggles
人際關係或感情受挫
How Trauma-Informed Counselling Can Help
創傷心理諮詢如何提供幫助
Creating Emotional Safety
建立情緒安全感
Establishing a reliable sense of security within the therapeutic relationship as a foundation for exploration.
在諮詢關係中建立穩固的安全感，以此作為探索內心的基石。
Understanding Protective Patterns
理解自我保護機制
Identifying the adaptive responses your system created to survive difficult experiences in the past.
識別您的身心系統為了在過去艱難環境中生存，而發展出的適應性反應。
Nervous System Regulation
調解神經系統
Learning practical tools to calm a hyper-aroused system or re-engage from a numbed state.
學習實用工具以安撫過度緊繃的神經，或讓麻木抽離的狀態重新恢復連結。
Developing Self-Compassion
培養對自己的
慈悲心
Shift from self-criticism to a gentler understanding of your internal world and experiences.
將內心的自我批判，轉化為對自己內在世界與經歷的溫柔同理。
Processing Experiences
安全地梳理經歷
Integrating past events at a comfortable pace that respects your capacity and boundaries.
在尊重您的心理承載力與界線的前提下，以您感到舒適的步調逐步梳理過去。
Building Healthier Relationships
建立更健康的關係
Strengthening your ability to set boundaries and build authentic connections with others.
增進您設立界線的能力，與他人建立更有深度且真實的連結。
Reconnecting with Strengths
重新連結自身力量
Moving beyond survival mode to rediscover your innate resilience and inner power.
跨越單純的「生存模式」，重新發現您與生俱來的韌性與內在力量。
My Approach
我的諮詢理念
I am Jessy Lok, a Registered Clinical Counsellor (RCC) providing a warm and collaborative space for healing. My style is deeply rooted in a trauma-informed lens, ensuring that you feel safe and empowered throughout our work together. I specialize in supporting individuals through anxiety, caregiving stress, life transitions, and emotional wellbeing.
我是靜思 (Jessy)，一名卑詩省註冊臨床心理諮詢師 (RCC)。
我在大溫地區（溫哥華及列治文）提供一個溫暖、踏實 及共同協作的空間。我的諮詢風格以「創傷知情」為核心，確保您在整個諮詢過程中感到安全、受到尊重並掌握主導權。我專長於陪伴個案面對焦慮、照顧者壓力、人生轉折以及跨文化身分認同的挑戰。
- Mindfulness-Informed: Integrating present-moment awareness to help regulate the nervous system.
- Culturally Sensitive: Honouring your unique background and cross-cultural experiences.
- Strengths-Based: Reconnecting with your inner resilience and inherent strengths.
- Client-Led: You are never pressured to discuss experiences before you feel ready.
- 正念：融入當下的覺察，協助調解與放鬆神經系統。
- 文化敏感度：尊重並珍視您獨特的文化背景與跨文化經歷。
- 資源與優勢導向：協助您重新與內在的韌性及原有的優勢
- 連結。
- 個案主導：諮詢步伐完全由您決定，在您準備好之前，絕不會強迫談論任何經歷。
Who This Service Is For
服務對象
- 童年創傷
- 情感忽視
- 困擾的家庭或人際關係
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長期焦慮與恐慌
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照顧者精疲力竭與壓力
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感覺生活停滯在「生存模式」中
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人生階段轉變與文化適應
- Childhood trauma
- Emotional neglect
- Difficult family relationships
- Chronic anxiety & panic
- Life transitions & cultural adjustment
- Feeling stuck in Survival Mode
- Caregiver burnout and stress
Fight｜戰
The urge to confront or control a situation. It can show up as irritability, anger, or a need to have the last word as a way to feel safe.
對抗或控制局面的衝動。在生活中可能表現為易怒、生氣，或在言語上必須爭辯到底，以此來獲得安全感。
Freeze｜僵
Feeling stuck or numb. You might find yourself "spacing out," having trouble making choices, or feeling disconnected from your body.
感到不知所措、僵持或麻木。您可能會發現自己經常「發呆放空」、難以做出抉擇，或感覺與自己的身體失去了連結。
Trauma and the Nervous System
創傷與神經系統
When we face overwhelming stress, our bodies enter automatic survival modes. Trauma happens when we get stuck in these responses long after the threat is gone. Counselling helps us move from survival to conscious awareness.
當面對排山倒海的壓力時，我們的身體會自動進入本能的生存模式。然而，
當威脅過去後，如果我們依然長期困在這些反應中，創傷便形成了。
心理諮詢能協助我們從無意識的生存本能，走向清明的自我覺察。
Counselling helps increase awareness and flexibility, allowing you to recognize these patterns and choose new responses rather than remaining stuck in automatic survival modes.
心理諮詢能提升大腦與身心的覺察力與彈性，讓您看清這些慣性模式，從而有能力選擇新的應對方式，而不再受困於自動化的生存本能中。
Flight｜逃
The urge to escape or avoid. This often looks like physical restlessness, perfectionism, or overworking to outrun anxious thoughts.
逃避或躲閃的衝動。這通常表現為身體上的躁動不安、極端的完美主義，或試圖用過度工作來逃避焦慮的思緒。
Fawn｜討好
Prioritizing others' needs to stay safe. It shows up as chronic people-pleasing, difficulty saying no, and losing track of your own feelings.
優先滿足他人的需求以確保自身安全。這表現為長期的迎合討好、難以拒絕他人，甚至漸漸忽略了自己真實的感受。
What is trauma-informed counselling?
什麼是創傷心理諮詢？
It is an approach that prioritizes your emotional and psychological safety. It acknowledges how past experiences shape your current reactions and focuses on stabilization, nervous system regulation, and moving at a pace that feels safe for you, without re-traumatization.
這是一種將您的情緒與心理安全放在首位的諮詢方法。它理解過去的經歷如何形塑您當下的身心反應，並將重點放在心理穩定、神經系統調解，以及在不造成二次創傷的前提下，以讓您感到安全的步調循序漸進。
Do I need a PTSD diagnosis to benefit from trauma-informed counselling?
我需要確診創傷後壓力症候群 (PTSD) 才能進行這項諮詢嗎？
No, you do not need a formal PTSD diagnosis. Trauma-informed care is deeply beneficial for anyone experiencing the lasting effects of difficult life events, chronic stress, emotional neglect, or relational challenges that impact their daily well-being.
不需要。創傷知情照護對任何正在承受過往艱難事件、慢性壓力、情感忽視或人際關係挑戰的人都大有幫助。只要這些經歷已經影響到了您的安全感與生活福祉，您都可以從中獲益。
Can childhood experiences affect adult anxiety?
童年的經歷會影響成年後的焦慮嗎？
Yes, significantly. Childhood experiences, including emotional neglect or unstable caregiving, shape the developing nervous system. These early patterns often manifest in adulthood as chronic anxiety, perfectionism, or difficulty trusting others, as the body remains in a protective survival mode.
會的，而且影響深遠。童年時期的經歷（包括情感忽視或缺乏穩定的照顧環境）會形塑發育中的神經系統。這些早期的行為與生理模式到了成年期，往往會演變成慢性的焦慮、完美的苛求、或難以信任他人，因為身體仍留在防禦性的生存模式裡
Is online trauma counselling effective?
線上創傷心理諮詢有效嗎？
Yes, online counselling is highly effective for trauma work. Many clients in Vancouver and Richmond, BC find that being in their own comfortable, familiar home environment helps them feel safer and more regulated during sessions, which is essential for processing difficult emotions.
有效的，線上諮詢在創傷輔導中非常成功。許多位於溫哥華和列治文的個案發現，待在自己熟悉且舒適的居家環境中，能讓他們在諮詢過程中感到更安全、身心更放鬆，而這對於梳理和轉化深層的艱難情緒至關重要。
Do you provide counselling in Cantonese and Mandarin?
您有提供廣東話和中文/普通話諮詢嗎？
Yes, I provide culturally sensitive trauma-informed counselling in English, Cantonese (廣東話), and Mandarin (中文/普通話). Offering therapy in your native language can often provide an additional layer of comfort and precision when exploring complex emotions and experiences.
有的。我提供具文化敏感度的創傷心理諮詢，服務語言包括英語、廣東話（Counselling in Cantonese）和中文/普通話（Counselling in Mandarin）。在探索複雜細膩的情緒與生命經驗時，使用最親近的母語往往能帶來更高的安心感與精準度。